Monday, May 07, 2007

parents ...

are the ones who brought you to the world ... but how many times do you thank them for that ? how many times do you even thank them for trivial matters like buying you lunch ? driving you to school ? providing you a shelter to live under ? paying for your clothes ? paying your school fees ? doing every single thing they could , within their capabilities ... all because of you ....

this may look trivial ... but look in the bigger picture ...

or rather .. think about this 1st before you might even cry out in guilt looking at the bigger picture ...

how often , or how much thought do you take to scream at them for doing things that you simply do not have the patience like - over concerning for you ? over asking ? buying something that you dont like to eat ? complaining about their body aches ? or accidentally switching your precious computer on , not knowing how to switch it back off ?

sometimes i wonder ... when am i going to stop doing these nasty things to my parents ... yes .. i am saying that i am guilty of doing all these things ... and i am not at all proud of that ...

so , i am urging every single one of you to take note of this ...

our parents are not young anymore ... we cant treat them like they are .. because, they are already ageing physically , not capable of the things that you do right now ... a seemingly simple and effortless task might cause them to break out in cold sweat ... i am not joking ... try taking them to a roller coaster ride .... they might not survive it ...

thats how physically weak they are ... and the things that they do for the family ... it seems like they've transformed into some superhuman ...

what is all of that for ? if you didd'nt know ... its you that they are slogging their lives away for ... to make sure that you lead a happier life than them ... to make sure that you have everything that your peers might have ...

and simply speaking ... making sure that you stay happy at all times ...

they've been in the workforce for more than half their lives ... scrimping on every cent they earn to provide for your material needs ... your gadgets ... your levi's ... your crumpler ... your education .... bank rolling you all the way into university, maybe even before you are born ...

why ? because they wont want you to be lagging behind your peers ... to make sure that you are the best kid at all times ....

parenthood .. is something that no one dare say is going to be an easy ride ... of course its not ...

its a life-long marathon of constant hardwork and committment ... not easy indeed ... but it often takes more than a minute of thought to recognise the fact that they are actually gods ... to me ... they are god-like ...

they gave me a life i have to cherish .. even in what seems to be the lowest point of my life ... i get back up for their sake ...

they brought me up into what i am ... i have never achieved much ... but they are always proud of who i actually am ... the young man that i have became ... thats the kind of priceless encouragement i will never ever forgo that spurs me on all the time ... every single time ...

in their opinion , you are always the best ....

they are the ones who are there for you at all times .... they are the ones who listens to your problems and truely goes all out to help you ... they are the ones that truely takes care of you without expecting much returns besides providing for them that they become weak and old one day ... its that simple ... its that pure ... its that beautiful ...

it has been particularly difficult to show them how much i actually love them ... verbally , it has never ever been easy to express it to them ... even when i am typing this post ... i am quite sure that they are not aware ... i am never a practional of thanking my parents ... even saying sorry is never verbal ... i am quite sure that i thank the drink store auntie more than i thank my parents ... thats how true ...

i am not telling everyone that we'll have to hug our parents and cry in acknowledgement to their upbringing ... but show a little appreciation ... you might have your own problems ... but they have their problems too ...

why is it that they can have the extra space in their hearts for you ... but you dont reserve a space in your hearts for them ? why are we always preoccupied with everything that we do in school , our friends , our relationships , but not putting all of that to a halt and listening out to - our ultimate life sources ?

why cant we understand them more? why cant we understand the hardships they have went through to bring us into what we are right now at this moment ?

the thing that i have been trying to say is that , the debt that we owe our parents is never ever repayable .... its so colossal that you wont even live to repay that ... let alone that they might not live long enough for you to repay them ... its a fact that everyone has to face in time to come ...

the bare minimum we could do now is to be obedient ... be safe ... be healthy ... and to take care of them ...

and of course, in years to come ... provide them a shelter to live in ... they'll be happy ... they'll live without regrets ... they'll be glad ....

theres about 20-30 years from now to change things ... to make them a happier person ... to make their lives fufilling ... to show that you care for them as much as they care for you... to return their care for you ... think of it ... 2-3 decades pass without leaving a trace ... so its time to do something ...

the clock is ticking ...